Grief Memories Single Parenting

A Big First

February 21, 2018

God Bless


  1. Carrie

    February 21, 2018

    Thinking of you both tonight. For what it is worth, I think your answer to your son that lots of people are proud of him was the perfect response. I’ve not lost a spouse but did lose a child, and while it will always be different and a lot of nights will be crap, it really does get more bearable. Hang in there.

  2. Muriel Scott

    February 21, 2018

    Thanks for sharing so honestly dear precious Simon. Praying for you and Ethan day by day. Nicky Gumbel’s Bible in One Year is very helpful and I often think of you in the words and comments that Nicky makes. Try it if you haven’t yet done so. My sister died from leukaemia at 28 years about 50 years ago. A story in itself. It so hard to understand but one day we will and every tear will be wiped away.

  3. NylabluesMum

    February 21, 2018

    It’s just about midnite here on Tuesday in Canada…your video is the last thing I’ve watched tonite. Simon you are incredibly strong. And brave. And this ‘new way’ will get easier…in time….. G-D give you all the strength & courage you & Ethan need to continue going forward. Rest easy….
    Sherri-Ellen T-D.
    P.S.: My Burmese boy Siddhartha Henry watched & listened to your video…..I think he likes Tilly!!! Cats! They are special creatures aren’t they?

  4. LML

    February 21, 2018

    Gemma is there with you still, although you cannot see her, she’s there. It looks like Tilly is looking after you too. x

  5. Jon

    February 21, 2018

    Courage is facing the fear. Keep going

  6. Philip Cole

    February 21, 2018

    Incredibly moved and filled with admiration of your candid account of your life since your wife’s loss, I’m childless and partnerless so can’t even begin to imagine how you feel, but hoping you find the words of comfort for your son and you feel comforted by all those who care for you . God bless you Simon.

  7. Rachael Birch

    February 21, 2018

    Thanks for the reminder. So easy to take life/loved ones for granted. Hope you slept last night. You’re very brave (even if you don’t feel it) and very honest.

  8. Margaret Iddon

    February 21, 2018


  9. Bono Hodge

    February 21, 2018

    So true that so many people that you and Ethan have probably never met are rooting for you, are proud of you, are supporting you along this difficult journey. Praying for you both.

  10. Laura Selvakumaran

    February 21, 2018

    She is in the great cloud of witnesses Heb 12..cheering you both on. We don’t know what she knows/doesn’t know….but for me this verse encourages me that my loved ones are SHOUTING for me to run my race. Thanks for sharing your grief hugs

  11. motherofangels3

    February 21, 2018

    I admire your courage and strength.

  12. Catherine

    February 26, 2018

    I remember the first night I had to sleep at home after my daughter died the silence was awful she was almost a year old when she died and had slept beside me in bed then in her cot right beside me until the day she died and the words silence is deafening took on a whole new meaning. It took me months to get used to it but you do and time does help heal the wound of loss. Sorry for your loss and for your son’s loss and thank you for sharing your story

  13. Lisa

    February 27, 2018

    I lost my father at 9years old. Will never forget the moment I was told. 30 years ago children were told they would bounce back. I never did. With years of no support I struggled.
    I made a promise that no child would never be alone in that dark world whilst grieving.
    I trained to become a counselling and now work in primary schools with children who have lost a family member or experienceing heart ache.
    As a child you never get over the loss, birthdays, Christmas, graduation, weddings, children of my own, someone was always missing. The pain gets bareable but never leaves. My angel is always with me.
    Wishing you and your son love and happiness as you make new memories with your angel watching over x

  14. Jennifer Black

    February 27, 2018

    I happened to be off work today and I saw you on This Morning, what you said is sooo true!! Moving on takes time it does not just happen.
    Living without your loved one is the hardest thing you will ever experience Xx

  15. Theresa

    February 27, 2018

    Simon your blogs have been so moving. I think as you said today in your t.v. interview we are not taught to deal with grief & loss. It seems to be discouraged to show any weakness but i think in order to grow you have to accept that weakness. You have had to deal with some very difficult situations in your life over the past few years but your openness & honesty will help you & others. Hold tight to your happy memories & grieve for who you have lost & all that has been taken from you but also be thankful for all that you have had from Gemma too. Losing someone special is difficult but you & Ethan are now her legacy so do what she would want you to do. Love to you both xx

  16. David Clancy

    February 27, 2018

    Hi, I have recently lost my wife through cancer, even though we knew for over a year that losing her battle was inevitable, the separation isn’t any easier. Your blogs describe perfectly the despair and insecurity of being a lone parent without your love by your side. I have 2 boys, soccer mad, as was there Mam. Thanks for sharing your feelings, it makes me feel less alone. If interested my wife wrote her own blog in her final year on

  17. Vicky Wrightson

    February 28, 2018

    Just started reading your blog after watching you on This Morning and I’m overwhelmed and moved by your humble honesty. As a Christian also I would just say run into Gods arms and let him wipe away every tear. His heart breaks with you both and after seeing his only son Jesus suffer and die He knows what great pain and loss feel like. I think it’s healthy to be angry, sad, confused etc with God and to let it all out…He’s a big God he can take it but if possible try not to run away from him. Through the midst of this horrid storm just keep on clinging to him, the great comforter.

  18. Linda Dearnley

    March 2, 2018

    Keep talking Simon, you have so many people thinking of you and sending love. Your doing fantastic and Ethan has the most amazing, strong, loving father. Tonight I will get out of my seat “aka the burrow” and snuggle with my husband, breathe him in, not take our life together for granted. I pray he never has to endure what you are going through, but appreciate life is so fragile and precious. Big love from a stranger x

  19. leanaconway

    March 3, 2018

    Praying, in Georgia, for you and sweet Ethan.

  20. atonementsurvival

    March 3, 2018

    Thank you for writing, and may God bless you both and give you strength.

  21. atonementsurvival

    March 7, 2018

    Dear Simon, I cam eacross your blog by chance. I can only say I am sorry for your son and your loss. May God Bless you both and give you the strenghth to cope. You are not alone – though you may feel it. One day maybe you can write how you deal with the shock and anxiety. Lissie


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