Grief Memories Single Parenting

My Gems (recording of my tribute to Gemma at her celebration)

March 3, 2018


  1. Joe

    March 3, 2018

    Wow! Absolutely beautiful, heart felt and touching. As a father of 2, send my love to your boy!

  2. Nicole

    March 3, 2018

    I admire your bravery. I had to have someone else read the eulogy for my daughter. Peace and love with you. Thank you for sharing your journey. You’re helping.

  3. Tiffany

    March 3, 2018

    What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful woman. Gemma sounded such an inspirational, genuine person. I am so so sorry for you and Ethan. The strength you both are showing is commendable. All the best to both of you.

  4. Neil Custis

    March 3, 2018

    That is stunning, beautiful and so sad all in one. Bless you and Ethan. You know there are thousands thinking of you. I’m certainly one.,

  5. Danielle T

    March 3, 2018

    What a beautiful words about your wife. So so sorry you have to go through such a terrible time. Your son has got one amazing Daddy!!!. You should be so proud of yourself, of your strength. Even though times are hard,I wish you and your boy the best for the future. You are inspirational and seem such a great guy, you sound just like your wife, A perfect match xxxx

  6. Sharon

    March 3, 2018

    Bless you both x

  7. Charmagne Haxby

    March 3, 2018

    Some things/moments/people move your very being. I don’t know why I listened to this but I did and it pulled at my very core, so much so that I’m writing- why am I writing?
    To be honest I’m not sure. I guess I just wanted to say I’m new to you/your story and I’ve been moved by your approach and openness. A powerful tribute touching upon a very rare love x Take each day as it comes x

  8. MR G McQuoid

    March 3, 2018

    A very moving and beautiful tribute to a lovely woman. I pray and believe that God will use your pain to help many other people. Clearly He already is.

  9. Erika

    March 3, 2018

    I am in tears listening to this how brave of you to share such special words of your immense love of an obviously beautiful person, your wife Gemma your son Ethan’s precious mummy ! May she rest in peace & may you be able to smile again along with your little boy x

  10. sarahheggie

    March 3, 2018

    that was so raw and perfect. there was no fakeness about it, instead just speaking truth about your anger at God but sharing the amazing influence your darling Gemma has had and will continue to have. You inspire me greatly, my dad was killed 3.5 years ago and only now am i allowing myself to even acknowledge it never mind grieve. Never hide away how you are feeling and thank you for sharing so openly.

  11. Sinead Murphy

    March 3, 2018

    Your words are remarkable and amazing Gemma would definitely be right to be proud of you Simon , your an inspiration

  12. Christine Dempster

    March 3, 2018

    What a beautiful tribute to your much loved wife x

  13. Louise schilt (@93Horsemad)

    March 3, 2018

    Hi Simon and. Ethan,
    What brave boys you both are I know how hard it is to be in your shoes after loosing my brother almost three years ago this August a plane crushed the car he was traveling in to a home football match he died almost instantly from massive head injuries so luckily he did not suffer loosing Jacob the way I did was devastatingly unfair he was not even a man yet he was still a boy he had only just turned 23 that February he was my best friend who I thought would be here to help me celebrate my 30th birthday but he’s not because of the actions of one man.
    Jacob was my hero and my best friend I miss and love him every single day since the 22nd of August 2015 a summer Saturday he was everything to me and to my parents too I loved him so much and I’d give anything to have him come home.
    Sending you all my love to both of you.
    # teamthomas #together #never forget #best dad.
    From Louise Margaret Schilt xxx

  14. Alison Clarke

    March 3, 2018

    Beautiful words Simon and Ethan.
    It’s such a hard time for you all you have amazing strength and gemma was such a brave wife and mum.
    Keep remembering all the good times.
    Big hugs team thomas xx

  15. Penny Doherty

    March 4, 2018

    Dear Simon, I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t really know what to say to you ,but I’m sure your wife would be so proud of you. My Dad died when I was 15 it was something that has never left me. But with the love and support of my family we have been on a journey to acceptance ever since. My Mum died 11 years ago and I know they are together now. Bless you both on your journey xx

    Love and light to you all ,


  16. Bex

    March 4, 2018

    It’s impossible to listen to this without being hugely impacted and inspired by Gemma’s life. Thanks for sharing.


    March 4, 2018

    Amazing. Strong. Faithful. xx

  18. Rhîan

    March 4, 2018

    Wow!! Just read this on my break Simon. Powerful and beautiful words. Gemma truly was one of a kind and someone who will never be forgotten. Huge love xx

  19. Annelies

    March 4, 2018

    So full of pain and so heartbreaking. Your Gemma must have been a special lady. Gemma poured all her love, strength and compassion into you and now you are that loving, caring, compassionate rock for Ethan. Ethan still feels the love around him. Sadly enough not from his mummy anymore, but he feels the love for two from you. Your Gems would have been so proud of you how you’re doing this. You’re Ethan’s hero, doing everything you can (and more) to help him to grow up.
    You’re doing amazing and I have no idea where you found the strength to act like you do, but you are really a special person Simon. Gemma knew she had found her man for life in you and she knew Ethan was in the best hands with you: Gemma was one of a kind, but so are you!
    I wish you courage to find the light in the darkness again: with God’s help you will succeed.
    Take care of yourself and your little boy: TeamThomas never gives up! xx

  20. Lucy Dickinson

    March 4, 2018

    Good morning Simon, I ve just listened to what you said about your lovely wife Gemma I know just from listening to that you and Ethan will get through this because you have each other. So many people who you ve never met think about you both everyday and send love everyday x
    Lucy xx

  21. Lilian

    March 4, 2018

    Lovely tribute – when this happened to me I couldn’t find it in my heart to forgive “god” for taking my husband from me within 24 hours of the birth of our son who is now 27. Deep down I still can’t as he has missed out on so much and so has my son – but I do know my husband would be so so proud of our son and how we have coped without him x

  22. Rob Stileman

    March 4, 2018

    Dear Simon,

    What a moving and heartfelt tribute

    Gemma sounded like such a kind, compassionate and Christlike woman.

    Those two stories you told – the first about her supporting you in the midst of a panic attack; the second about the impact she had in her ward when ill – were both testament to the light of Jesus that was so clearly shining in her.

    I am keeping you and Ethan in my prayers at the moment. I cannot even imagine what a difficult time this is for you both.

    But I just want to encourage you to keep clinging on to Jesus.

    In the midst of this confusion and unspeakable grief, to not let go of Him.

    He is the bread of life and the light of the world – and he is with you every step of the way.

    God bless and stay strong,


  23. Justine Docherty

    March 4, 2018

    Oh Simon I don’t know what to say. How brave and strong you and your darling boy are. My husband has terminal cancer and every day I die a little with him and every day I wonder how I’m going to cope how I’m going to go on with our 2 precious children but your courage and strength give me hope. Thank you and God Bless

  24. Louise McCallum

    March 4, 2018

    So touching and so profound. I pray you and Ethan find peace and comfort to help you through the coming weeks, months and years. Take care of yourself, you sound a very special man. X

  25. Annabelle Donaldson

    March 4, 2018

    Absolutely beautiful love to you both xxxxx

  26. Tom Howe

    March 4, 2018

    Just listened – God bless you

  27. Lucy Booth

    March 4, 2018

    Such a wonderful tribute to your amazing Gemma, Simon. You and Ethan were so brave on what must have been an incredibly painful day. You are right that Gemma’s endless love and compassion will keep shining out of your lovely boy. Xx

    • Nic A

      March 7, 2018

      Amazeballs ❤️❣️🖤

  28. Graham Harris

    March 5, 2018

    Very powerful tribute. Amazing.

  29. Jane

    March 6, 2018

    Simon my heart goes out to you and Ethan. Team Thomas has love and prayers from so many on social media, most you will never meet but your message of faith and love in even the darkest times is amazing and is confirming God is faithful. Do not underestimate the impact of your love and compassion as you are telling of Gemma’s life and her love for Jesus. Your prayer at the end had me in tears – I know He is with you and I thank Him daily that He is walking along side you and will continue carry you in times when you find it difficult to walk. Bless you x

  30. Majestie

    March 6, 2018

    You Guys Are Both very Strong During This Difficult time.

  31. Bono Hodge

    March 7, 2018

    A beautiful tribute, full of passion and courage, honesty and integrity. You have honoured Gemma as she deserves and have done her proud. Just like a Psalm that starts in pain and holds nothing back, even asks the big questions of God, you have still shared the hope that you have, despite everything you are facing. This is your Psalm. Praying each day for you and Ethan that you will find more light breaking through the darkness each day.

  32. Rachael Birch

    March 20, 2018

    Wow! I cried … A LOT. ..listening to this. You were so brave, both you and Ethan. It’s hard to understand why death comes so suddenly and harshly, especially to the young and why we can be up to our necks in good stuff and yet still be taken. But we have to believe this is not the end. As you say, Gemma lives on in Ethan and is with you both. And what a wonderful hope we have that you will see her again in eternity. I love the words of your friend Dan…schools out. And remember what Billy Graham said. …I have not died, I am more alive than ever. I pray you find some comfort in that. You did such a beautiful job with that tribute…your pain was evident but you spoke so eloquently (as did Ethan) about your Gem. I pray for you and Ethan everyday, you are on my list and will continue to be so. I am so very sorry for your loss. Don’t forget to post about your successes in the kitchen….we are all rooting for you. Much love. Xx


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